I don’t think that I am breaking any new ground by saying woman are naturally more empathetic and emotionally developed than men.
The way I was raised was empathy came from my mom and discipline came from my dad. I’m not saying I never got an “atta boy” from the old man but it wasn’t expected on a regular basis. In a way, expressing emotion as a male in my family was showing weakness and was pressed out of me like a someone on their first day of a juicing diet.. before they discovered how much work it takes to clean everything then saying fuck it and back to their old eating habits with a promise to cut down on the carbs. Hmm.. Where was I? Oh yeah so that’s where I started emotionally.
So I’m a guy that has always looked for the logic to things, taking what people say at face value. In personal interactions and relationships this has left me emotionally stunted. (Thanks Elly for pointing this out)
One of the most important lessons I’ve learned in improv is that “everything means something”. It has helped me discover that sometimes there is a secret language behind words. In other words my scene partner could be talking about something quite trivial but meaning something substantial. Looking into and dissecting what that meaning could be does wonders for my own choices in a scene.
This training has also helped me in my personal life just ask my gir.. oh wait well.. if I had a girlfriend right now she would be very happy with my not only my listening skills but more importantly my ability to hear. Wow this is getting cathartic.
My point is; this is an aptitude I was not born with but learned over years of improv training and copious amounts of trial and error.
Fighting evil by moonlight, winning love by daylight. Never running from a real fight, they are the ones named Think Fast!